The emotional struggle of teenagers

Adolescents face difficulties expressing their emotions and sometimes this results in emotional outbursts.It's hard for most of them to talk openly to someone like their friends or family. So, what makes teenagers hide their feelings and emotions?

Their trouble dealing with their emotions is totally understandable and there are some reasons associated with this. First and foremost is pressure. One important type of pressure is parental. Nowadays parents usually press their teenage children too much. Some of them do it because they want their child to be better at everything than other students and see the grade system as a kind of competition between students' parents. Others however, just believe that the pressure they exert benefits their offspring. This makes teenagers very insecure about their abilities sometimes and ads up to their already tight schedule. Another common type of pressure, is by peers. Teenagers have to keep up with them in order to be sociable and this can become really frustrating sometimes. The other important reason is that they have to live up to set community standards. They are expected to have a certain personality and behavior that sometimes does not express their actual personality. In addition, when they try to defy these standards they are labeled and criticized.

However, there are also some solutions to adolescents' emotional struggle. First of all, I think that finding their passion can help them a great deal. Their passion might be for example art. They can release all their true thoughts and emotions by singing, drawing, dancing etc. It is a socially acceptable way that can also help them in the long run and they can end up doing it professionally. Moreover, another solution is talking with their parents, friends or relatives that they can trust and explain to them what they go through. It will make teenagers feel better and sometimes older people can even give them some sort of advice.

To sum up, emotion related problems make teenagers' lives harder and they can seem too overwhelming. However there are efficient solutions they could try out.

Parents and adolescence

• What do you think about the idea that teenagers need more guidance from adults and a stricter environment in which to grow up?

Adolescence is undoubtedly a tough period for both parents and teenagers. It's the period after puberty and parents need to face the change of their children's behavior. To my mind, boundaries are necessary at some point. If you are too strict your teen will no longer accept these boundaries and will react. Boundaries work better if they are both made and agreed with parents and teenagers. According to this, a reaction from the other side is not possible unless you overcome these limits. As for the stricter environment you and your teen should both agree for the time that should be back at home for example, on weekdays should be back at 8 pm and on weekends at 10 pm. Parents should be more patient in order to understand the mentality of teenagers and they can deal with a young person.

• How do you think it might feel to be the parent of an adolescent?

As scientists say "During adolescence children are beginning to form their identity". According to this, if I was a parent of an adolescent I would try to help him find this identity. I would support his decisions but I would present my advice on them. I cannot understand exactly how being the parent of an adolescence is but I think that no one else can, except a parent.

How do you think it might feel to be the parent of an adolescent?

Generally, the upbringing of a child is a continuous process which demands the responsibility of parents. Especially, in puberty parents must be very patient and permissive, as they have to control different emotions of the adolescents because of some psychological problems which they may face.
In my opinion, parents feel desperate, stressed and disappointed because of the teenagers' behaviour, as they are made to punish them. Also, I think they feel anger because of their children's aggression.

What do you think about the idea that teenagers need more guidance from adults and a stricter environment in which to grow up?

The teenagers have confusing behaviour and are moody during this period. On one hand, they feel disappointed and desperate because of all problems they need to face as they grow older. On the other hand, they are very agressive and boisterous reacting to everything concerning their family or school.
I firmly believe that rebellious adolescents need some advice and guidance from their parents. So they should live in a loving family environment in which they will feel safety and freedom. As far as parents are concerned, they might not be massively strict, but patient and permissive setting boundaries to teenagers' behaviour.

 

What about adolescence?

• What do you think about the idea that teenagers need more guidance from adults and a stricter environment in which to grow up?

In my point of view, being an adolescent is one of the most essential period of time for everyone, because life there starts to be more demanding. In addition to this, teenagers' psychological state is unbalanced and feelings, for instance, anger,joy,optimism,depression, are mixed.It is also reported that parents' contribution is a major factor of how their children will enter society when they become adults.According to this, I believe that parents should always support their children not to be frustrated and grateful for what they are offered.Moreover, parents ought to put boundaries to their children and draw the line at their behaviour. However, if there are so many restrictions, adolescent may feel alienated ,moody and aggressive,because they have less space than their peers.Additionally, living in a rigorous environment may affect their school grades, like unwilling to study or uneagerness to take part in the lesson.Taking all into consideration, I support that parents should keep up with their children, not to underestimate their needs, but they are obliged to explain them life is not a bowl of cherries and put some restrictions to make them more responsible and mature.

• How do you think it might feel to be the parent of an adolescent?

I imagine myself being the parent of an adolescent exceptionally tough.To begin with, adolescence is the period of time that children leave puberty and are lead to adulthood. This situation is also hard for parents, because responsibilities elevate and  there is a wide variety of problems they will face, the most urgent of which is the psychological support they should always provide to them. In this way, teenagers boredom and resentment towards school will drop off.Parents also have to  handle their nerves and behave in a gentle way during their pressing working hours, because teenagers aggressiveness is in turmoil, so  is a wrong decision to work off their anger to them. Last but not least, I believe that having  good communication between them will cure every problem and joyness will dominate.

Adolescents and how to deal with them

In my opinion adolescence is the most difficult age of people.
The teenagers need to have a careful and rational environment in which to grow up. It is necessary for parents restrict their children's freeedom. For instance, the freedom is important because it helps the relatioship between parents and teenagers and also teenagers with their friends. Furthermore, parents have to be careful and to watch the children's life and set boundaries, which is necessary.

On the other hand, to be the parent of an adolescent is very difficult. This means that the parents are not carefree because of the teenagers. Sometimes that is very hard because are very busy with their work and they must to pay attention to the children. They try to be better parents but one adolescent is vey hard to control it.

Teenagers and boundaries

  

• What do you think about the idea that teenagers need more guidence from adults and a stricter environment in which to grow up? How do you think it might feel to be the parent of an adolescent? 

• Teenage life is a period of time relating to those who are aged thirteen through nineteen years old. This specific period of time , as adolescents grow up, is too tough for both teens and parents. Teenagers act in a very confusing and abnormal way, which makes their parents reaction, often full of tension. This phenomenon is based on one undoubtedly significant factor which is the release of hormones in their bodies.This release sometimes makes adolescents aggressive, restless and competitive. While teenagers grow up they feel more independent and they firmly bilieve that teenage life is their rebelion period for not being any more kids and immature. But is this statement correct? In my opinion it is not. First of all adolescents can't recognise the urgent problems that they face, as their parents do. Teenagers are very stubborn in their decisions and many times when no one agrees with them they feel loneliness and this is a symptom of alienation. The only solution to this problem is guidance from parents,talking to them and the most essential, teenagers must try to controle their nerves and flash on the true problems. In addition, of course bountaries set by parents must exist, but in a normall way which doesn't make their children feel restricted. Finally as a teenager I am not much experienced to tell if being a teenagers parent is so tough but as I can picture in my mind, it is a very special role with full of responsibilities, friction between children but also a special period of time trying to prepare your children realise how to be a faultless adult in the feuture.   

Peer pressure; the most vital problem faced by adolescents

                The teenage years are a time of rapid growth and alteration in physical, social and mental level. Adolescents are exposed to various overwhelming external and internal struggles. The problems that they are faced with today, are multifarious, but interrelated in many cases. Nevertheless, as far as I am concerned, the most vital problem faced by teenagers nowadays is peer pressure.

                  Peer pressure is known as the adoption of a particular type of behavior, clothing or attitude in order to be accepted as a part of a group. To clarify, it is human nature to identify with and compare themselves with other people. At first sight, being influenced by others, not only could be beneficial, but also undoubtedly necessary. However, nowadays teenagers are excessively based on the impression they maky on their peers and thus, while trying to avoid being judged or criticised, they neglect their values and preferences and choose to follow the stream. For instance, provocative clothes and smoking are considered to be a rite of passage into adolescence. So, if somebody tends to disagree and resists to what the most support, his peers will definitely make fun of him, and as a result, they will inwardly urge him to inappropriate and uncomfortable situations.

                  As for the ways to tackle the problem, there are various things that could be done. Initially, if somebody experiences peer pressure to a high degree, it is important to have the support and help he needs. He could share his worries and emotions with a family member, a friend outside the situation, a teacher or with whoever he feels comfortable. Furthermore, the intervention of an expert, in some occasions, could be necessary and incredibly helpfull, too. Last but not least, in my opinion, the most valid solution could be to be understood by the teenager that they deserves having good treatment and he has the right to be different and have his own unique attitude toward school, parents, friendships etc, even if it is not completely approved.

                   Taking everything into consideration, I believe that as a society, we must deal with peer pressure and understand that each one of us was born to stand out and there is no point on trying so hard to fit in.

Peer pressure!

Nowadays, teenagers can easily be influenced by other peers. Their peers sometimes encourage and urge them to change their attitudes, values and their behavior. However, do they change because they really want it and feel fulfilled or do they change in order ti fit in a peer group?

First and foremost, peer pressure has negative impacts on the teenagers' lives. Adolescents have to conform to group norms in order to be accepted. They usually hesitate to pursue their interests, therefore, they give up hobbies or exchange them in order to spend time with their so-called friends. In addition, due to conforming to group norms, not only will they feel restricted and limited, but they will also have low self-esteem and will be less confident. Furthermore, teenagers neglect and sacrifice old friends who do not follow the latest trends and the mainstream ( alcohol, fashion, skip class). They even mock and tease them in order to be accepted. Moreover, teenagers have a high tendency to do unusual and sometimes astonishingly risky things in order to belong to a peer group. However, these things might be exceptionally hazardous and tremendously perilous for their health. For instance, they experience drug abuse or they drink alcohol. Last but not least, adolescents might feel ashamed of their parents who are conventional, so they refuse to spend quality time together.

Concerning the ways to handle this phenomenon, there are several steps that could be taken. Firstly, only if teenagers who undergo peer pressure avoid it, will they deal with it. Secondly, their parents ought to encourage them and serve as an example. Additionally, they ought to communicate together and exchange opinions in order to empower their relationship and solve their problems. (In fact, communication with their parents is downright tough and difficult due to the generation gap). What is more, school is another crucial factor in order to tackle this problem. There should be lessons that focus on peer pressure, in which students are able to talk about their experiences and also highlight the importance of being confident and having self-pride.

On balance, I firmly believe that under no circumstances should adolescents base their decisions on other peers' opinions, interests and beliefs. I also reckon that it is essential that they support their own values, thoughts, feelings and preferences in order to feel satisfied and content.