Showing posts with label Adolescence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Adolescence. Show all posts

Wednesday, 16 October 2019

Rebel Without a Cause?





Why are adolescents rebellious? Why do they find themselves at odds with their parents and teachers so often? Is this a natural, healthy part of growing up or a potentially dangerous tendency? In preparing your thoughts for Essay Topic 1, Test 2 in Practice Tests for the ECPE (Book 1), it may be helpful to read the following:

 Some thoughts on the benefits of rebelling, by an Australian counsellor on teenagers.

A more conservative view by an American psychologist, arguing that there are more constructive alternatives to rebellion.

Remember: articles such as the above ones are great sources of ideas, vocabulary and expressions, but whole passages should never be copied directly. Happy hunting!

Sunday, 29 September 2019

ECPE Challenge, Unit 1: Adolescence and parenthood

1) Do you agree with the view expressed in this quotation? 

“The few joys of childhood is the best that life has to offer.”

2) How does it feel to be the parent of an adolescent? How would you treat your child if you were a parent? What particular qualities should you possess?

3) Study these words of unit 1 on Quizlet: https://quizlet.com/_3vh048 




Friday, 19 October 2018

Appearances: ECPE Tests Book 1, Test 3, Writing topic 1

To get us thinking about what effect our appearance has on others, and why people often go to extremes when creating their own personal style, here are two newspaper articles (with a bonus vocab exercise added to the second!):

from The New York Times gets the ball rolling by discussing the case of Susan Boyle, a very plain looking Scottish woman who became an internet sensation in 2009 after appearing on "Britain's Got Talent", which launched her highly successful international career. Unsurprisingly, she has since made major changes to her appearance. We all know that we tend to make snap judgements of other based on their looks, but why do we do so?



2. Body piercing revival is ‘rite of passage’ as well as fashion
The Independent (www.independent.co.uk), Saturday 8th March 2003

The practice has been described as self mutilation, a violation of socially defined standards of beauty and a "fashion-caused infringement of physical immaculacy". Now a new theory has been advanced to explain the growing popularity of body piercing – it is a rite of passage and a way of marking significant life events, especially traumatic ones.

The proliferation of body piercings in the past decade has worried doctors and puzzled psychologists. From the traditional site of the female earlobe, jewellery has spread across the body and is now proudly displayed in the eyebrow, nose, lip, tongue and belly button – to name but a few of the possible sites – and by both sexes.

Its popularity is growing around the world and is expanding across social and age groups, says Aglaja Stirn, a psychiatrist at JW Goethe University in Frankfurt, Germany, who has made a study of the practice.

There are few reliable statistics for the number of people who have had piercings but one US study of college students found 42 per cent of the men and 60 per cent of the women had them. An Australian study of 10,000 people aged over 13, found 8 per cent had some form of piercing. Writing in The Lancet, Dr Stirn says body piercing has been a common practice in almost every society around the world but the reasons for its sudden growth in the West remain disputed.

Dr Stirn says it is important to combat prejudice by recognising the "often intense motivations" behind the activity. One view is that piercing is undertaken to increase self esteem. "The need for even young adolescents to improve their appearance and self-esteem with extreme and even risky measures can be viewed as evidence of a regressive trend in Western culture," she writes.
Others believe fashion drives piercing. One study found that piercers wanted to "create something different, individual and lasting on themselves".

But from her own study of 104 people who had piercings, Dr Stirn concluded that the motive ran deeper and often marked triumph over adversity. "These individuals got their piercings at special moments in their lives, to commemorate positive experiences or to mark the end and overcoming of negative ones. There is a strong relation between tattoos and piercings and personal events, especially if traumatic."

Body piercing can also be seen as therapeutic because the procedure is followed by weeks or months of self care, involving bathing and cleaning the pierced site. This "forces the individual to be concerned with their body and themselves during the healing process". Dr Stirn says better regulation and understanding of the reasons behind body piercing are the best way to protect those choosing this method of "conveying ... a sense of identity and a coherent self".

The pleasures and risks of adornment
Addie Chinn, at 23, has four piercings – three in his ears and a tongue stud – and a tattoo. He works in a bar in east London and is planning his next. "Lip, nose – I'm not sure. I'm thinking about it," he said.

As a 16-year-old with long hair and an instinct to provoke, he got his ear pierced for the first time mainly because it was forbidden by his school. "It was more of a rebellious impulse. I would do anything to assert my independence," he said.

His next came two years later during A-levels. "It wasn't planned but I was finishing school and I wanted to mark the event in some way. It seemed the right thing to do." At 21, he had his tongue pierced. "It was overcoming another barrier that attracted me. It hurts."

'Like banging a nail in wood'
The dangers of body piercing were highlighted by the case of Katrina Healey who lost part of her ear after a piercing gun instead of a specialist needle was used to insert a gold stud.

The gun shattered the cartilage and she lost the top of her ear after it shrivelled and died – the gun should only be used on the lobe. Katrina had three operations and needs plastic surgery to rebuild her ear. She was awarded almost £14,000 in damages. Her mother, Karen Hudson, had refused permission so Katrina, then 12, had had the piercing behind her back. When the piercing developed an abscess she was in agony.

The Body Piercing Association said: "Using a gun is a mistake. It's like banging a nail through a piece of wood."

Find words in bold with the following meanings
1. round part at the bottom of the ear: ____________   11. damaging the body: __________
2. sudden desire to do something: ____________           12. obstacle: ____________
3. fight against something negative: ____________       13. demonstrate: ____________
4. well organized and coordinated: ____________ 14. helping you to recover: ____________
5. state firmly and stand up for: ____________      15. hitting very hard: ____________
6. money paid as compensation: ____________   16. very difficult conditions: ____________
7. celebrate the importance of an event: ____________ 17. controlling: ____________
8. showed: ____________           18. debated, the subject of disagreement: ____________
9. decoration: ____________       19. propose, put forward (idea etc.): ____________
10. break into small pieces: ____________  20. sudden increase in number: ____________

Thursday, 21 June 2018

Why schools should start later for teens

https://www.ted.com/talks/wendy_troxel_why_school_should_start_later_for_teens/transcript#t-514088

     It is a video about a very common problem among teenagers.Adolescents sleep late at night and they have to wake up early in order to go to school.As a result, they don't sleep the recommended time that scientists suggest (8-10 hours) and that may cause many problems to their school progress and to their life generally. Also, because they don't sleep enough they don't get up in time to go to school so  they are usually late  and they miss the first hours. For the speaker this problem  is caused by the public policy. So in order to find a solution to this, the time when school starts needs to be changed, because the more the teenagers sleep, the better they do at school!

Food and Alientation nowadays

https://www.ted.com/talks/jamie_oliver/transcript 

The very intriguing and timely subject of this specific talking concerns the alientation and food habits that moslty children and adolescents have nowadays whose vast majority is undoudtedly disappointing.

Jamie Oliver, the speaker is a very seasoned and experienced chef  on anything as far as food and cooking is concerned and I firmly agree with him that we all have to take a little bit of time to consider which the last time was that we actually  scheduled strictly our diet. Really there is no need to be exaggerating or eating solely salads and fruit, but everyone needs to contemplate on their unhealthy food choices and actually start adopting a healthier lifestyle involving physical activities in order to feel better with themselves and avoid feeling ashamed of their appearance or affecting their health in harmful way . To conclude,I definitely recommend hearing and paying attention to this thought-provoking speech.

Monday, 9 January 2017

The emotional struggle of teenagers

Adolescents face difficulties expressing their emotions and sometimes this results in emotional outbursts.It's hard for most of them to talk openly to someone like their friends or family. So, what makes teenagers hide their feelings and emotions?

Their trouble dealing with their emotions is totally understandable and there are some reasons associated with this. First and foremost is pressure. One important type of pressure is parental. Nowadays parents usually press their teenage children too much. Some of them do it because they want their child to be better at everything than other students and see the grade system as a kind of competition between students' parents. Others however, just believe that the pressure they exert benefits their offspring. This makes teenagers very insecure about their abilities sometimes and ads up to their already tight schedule. Another common type of pressure, is by peers. Teenagers have to keep up with them in order to be sociable and this can become really frustrating sometimes. The other important reason is that they have to live up to set community standards. They are expected to have a certain personality and behavior that sometimes does not express their actual personality. In addition, when they try to defy these standards they are labeled and criticized.

However, there are also some solutions to adolescents' emotional struggle. First of all, I think that finding their passion can help them a great deal. Their passion might be for example art. They can release all their true thoughts and emotions by singing, drawing, dancing etc. It is a socially acceptable way that can also help them in the long run and they can end up doing it professionally. Moreover, another solution is talking with their parents, friends or relatives that they can trust and explain to them what they go through. It will make teenagers feel better and sometimes older people can even give them some sort of advice.

To sum up, emotion related problems make teenagers' lives harder and they can seem too overwhelming. However there are efficient solutions they could try out.

Saturday, 17 October 2015

Peer pressure

            Nowadays, lots of adolescents are getting influenced by peers to change their way of thinking, their beliefs and their behaviour. This is called "Peer Pressure".
            First of all, peer pressure has negative impacts on teenagers' lives but also on their psychology. Adolescence is a tough period for them so they feel the need to fit in and to be accepted. Teenagers are trying to change their personality and their personal opinion in order to agree with the opinion of the peer group. But what happens when a teenager can't fit in? A possible rejection from the peer group could cause a lot of problems on their psyche. They may feel they will never fit in another group or make any new friends. Also, peer groups can easily influence them not to study. This fact has negative impacts on their marks and parents may react. Last but not least, they have to drink alcohol or smoke as other peers do. Adolescents want to experiment with all these kind of things but they ignore the tremendous problems they can cause in their health.
            Our community and parents should all help these young people to form their identity and to make their own personality. Most parents may react when they see that their child is depressed so they are trying to have a conversation with their teen, but lots of teenagers refuse to talk with their parents. As they say they are mature enough to make decisions and to understand what is good or bad. Many conferences all around the world are necessary so we can all help both parents understand what is the situation like but also we should advise adolescents and inform them of the problems they may face in their life.
            Taking everything into consideration, I believe that as a society we have to deal with the vital problem called "peer pressure" and whatever other psychological problems may be caused on teenagers' lives. We should inform adolescents that they have their own personality, opinion and personal beliefs and that they shouldn't change in order to fit in to a bad influencial peer group.

Sunday, 27 September 2015

Parents and adolescence



  • What do you think about the idea that teenagers need more guidance from adults and a stricter environment in which to grow up?
Adolescence is undoubtedly a tough period for both parents and teenagers. It's the period after puberty and parents need to face the change of their children's behavior. To my mind, boundaries are necessary at some point. If you are too strict your teen will no longer accept these boundaries and will react. Boundaries work better if they are both made and agreed with parents and teenagers. According to this, a reaction from the other side is not possible unless you overcome these limits. As for the stricter environment you and your teen should both agree for the time that should be back at home for example, on weekdays should be back at 8 pm and on weekends at 10 pm. Parents should be more patient in order to understand the mentality of teenagers and they can deal with a young person.


  • How do you think it might feel to be the parent of an adolescent?
As scientists say "During adolescence children are beginning to form their identity". According to this, if I was a parent of an adolescent I would try to help him find this identity. I would support his decisions but I would present my advice on them. I cannot understand exactly how being the parent of an adolescence is but I think that no one else can, except a parent.


How do you think it might feel to be the parent of an adolescent?

Generally, the upbringing of a child is a continuous process which demands the responsibility of parents. Especially, in puberty parents must be very patient and permissive, as they have to control different emotions of the adolescents because of some psychological problems which they may face.
In my opinion, parents feel desperate, stressed and disappointed because of the teenagers' behaviour, as they are made to punish them. Also, I think they feel anger because of their children's aggression.

What do you think about the idea that teenagers need more guidance from adults and a stricter environment in which to grow up?

The teenagers have confusing behaviour and are moody during this period. On one hand, they feel disappointed and desperate because of all problems they need to face as they grow older. On the other hand, they are very agressive and boisterous reacting to everything concerning their family or school.
I firmly believe that rebellious adolescents need some advice and guidance from their parents. So they should live in a loving family environment in which they will feel safety and freedom. As far as parents are concerned, they might not be massively strict, but patient and permissive setting boundaries to teenagers' behaviour.

 

What about adolescence?


  • What do you think about the idea that teenagers need more guidance from adults and a stricter environment in which to grow up?
In my point of view, being an adolescent is one of the most essential period of time for everyone, because life there starts to be more demanding. In addition to this, teenagers' psychological state is unbalanced and feelings, for instance, anger,joy,optimism,depression, are mixed.It is also reported that parents' contribution is a major factor of how their children will enter society when they become adults.According to this, I believe that parents should always support their children not to be frustrated and grateful for what they are offered.Moreover, parents ought to put boundaries to their children and draw the line at their behaviour. However, if there are so many restrictions, adolescent may feel alienated ,moody and aggressive,because they have less space than their peers.Additionally, living in a rigorous environment may affect their school grades, like unwilling to study or uneagerness to take part in the lesson.Taking all into consideration, I support that parents should keep up with their children, not to underestimate their needs, but they are obliged to explain them life is not a bowl of cherries and put some restrictions to make them more responsible and mature.

  • How do you think it might feel to be the parent of an adolescent?
I imagine myself being the parent of an adolescent exceptionally tough.To begin with, adolescence is the period of time that children leave puberty and are lead to adulthood. This situation is also hard for parents, because responsibilities elevate and  there is a wide variety of problems they will face, the most urgent of which is the psychological support they should always provide to them. In this way, teenagers boredom and resentment towards school will drop off.Parents also have to  handle their nerves and behave in a gentle way during their pressing working hours, because teenagers aggressiveness is in turmoil, so  is a wrong decision to work off their anger to them. Last but not least, I believe that having  good communication between them will cure every problem and joyness will dominate.


Adolescents and how to deal with them

In my opinion adolescence is the most difficult age of people.
The teenagers need to have a careful and rational environment in which to grow up. It is necessary for parents restrict their children's freeedom. For instance, the freedom is important because it helps the relatioship between parents and teenagers and also teenagers with their friends. Furthermore, parents have to be careful and to watch the children's life and set boundaries, which is necessary.


On the other hand, to be the parent of an adolescent is very difficult. This means that the parents are not carefree because of the teenagers. Sometimes that is very hard because are very busy with their work and they must to pay attention to the children. They try to be better parents but one adolescent is vey hard to control it.

Friday, 25 September 2015

Teenagers and boundaries

  

  • What do you think about the idea that teenagers need more guidence from adults and a stricter environment in which to grow up? How do you think it might feel to be the parent of an adolescent? 


  • Teenage life is a period of time relating to those who are aged thirteen through nineteen years old. This specific period of time , as adolescents grow up, is too tough for both teens and parents. Teenagers act in a very confusing and abnormal way, which makes their parents reaction, often full of tension. This phenomenon is based on one undoubtedly significant factor which is the release of hormones in their bodies.This release sometimes makes adolescents aggressive, restless and competitive. While teenagers grow up they feel more independent and they firmly bilieve that teenage life is their rebelion period for not being any more kids and immature. But is this statement correct? In my opinion it is not. First of all adolescents can't recognise the urgent problems that they face, as their parents do. Teenagers are very stubborn in their decisions and many times when no one agrees with them they feel loneliness and this is a symptom of alienation. The only solution to this problem is guidance from parents,talking to them and the most essential, teenagers must try to controle their nerves and flash on the true problems. In addition, of course bountaries set by parents must exist, but in a normall way which doesn't make their children feel restricted. Finally as a teenager I am not much experienced to tell if being a teenagers parent is so tough but as I can picture in my mind, it is a very special role with full of responsibilities, friction between children but also a special period of time trying to prepare your children realise how to be a faultless adult in the feuture.